read another article "And, Honey, how do we split the khansamas?" by Namita Devidayal & Swati Deshpande in the Times of India.
this one brings to light facts about couples planning to separate (not just live in separate bedrooms or flats!) or divorce and facing problems dividing all the possessions into two. i was shocked to learn that this included fights or hassels over division of art collections, air miles, even club memberships and even the family cook ie: the "khansama".
my God, i never even thought in my wildest of dreams that separating or divorcing couples were more bothered about how to divide equally the Hussains and the Club memberships and the "khansamas" rather than worried about the division of their oneness, their shared memories and happy & sad times spent together!!!!
in this materialsitic age, i guess, it's easier and more affordable for them to find another partner and another set of shared life than obtain a hussain or a Souza or a Gymkhana Club membership or a good and efficient "Khansama".
and , what about the children (and if there's only one child??)??
does a division or custody factor of a child/children and division of his life into two separate incomplete halves come after they are through with fights and legal battles over other possessions?
and even when this problem comes to be solved,are they able to divide EVERYTHING into two equal halves???
who owns the shared life, the memories of the family, the happy times, the trials & tribulations of struggles, the sleepless nights spent over a child's high fever or the fear of a child not returning home till late in the night or the jubiliation experienced over an offspring's achievement or the excitement of the next good job or first trip abroad together??
who, i repeat, WHO gets to keep all these and many more such possessions? and when either one of the spouses does get to keep these, do these possessions still retain their original meaning and significance??
pray tell me o separating couples, can you answer this simple question of mine???
//best//mg
Incisive and thoughtful. The real disconnect I see in today's relatioships is the alck of character, integrity and a long term perspective. Materialism has completely taken over our lives and everything has a price. Emotional and feeling laden things hardly have a price because they have to be thought about or felt and today's adults donot have the time.
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Kudos to you for sensitising the people on such relevant and sensitive issues. may your tribe grow.
today's generation just thinks about materialistic objects when seperated.these things can be bought but your memories are priceless.you never get a second chance,it'll be to late,the time passes and the clock can'tbe reversed.
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