there's another aspect of Delhi that baffles me! it is the blatant denial or un- acknowledgement of relationships. what i mean by this is that Delhi, as I have been noticing over the years, has a culture of non-recognition of “recognizables’.
what i mean simply is that people, whom you know and who know you, have the ability to acknowledge or not acknowledge this relationship depending on the circumstances. People may just look through you and pass you by without so much as a “HI” when they don’t need anything from you but the very same people will do everything and indulge in talk, even if you seem least interested, and be sweet, when they want something from you. The salutations (or non-salutations) depend on their need of you.
Shocking & disgusting behaviour! What’s worse is the fact that children, who ofcourse are very quick learners, are learning this trait very early on in life in this city. They wish a “good morning, good afternoon” or a “Namaste” depending on various factors. And when they don’t think it is required, they simply walk past you. What a pity! Children are being taught manners/etiquettes not for the sake of respecting somebody, or showing decency, but to use these gestures as tools to get work done.
Can’t imagine what values our children will absorb from such a selfish environment and attitudes!
A very good article indeed. I don't know what values people are teaching their children. In today's world they think they should teach their children how to get their work done. Some friends do friendship for their benefit. If you are popular or they can get something out of you they'll be with you no matter you are wrong or right but if you are not popular or they can't get anything out of you no matter you are right or wrong they'll not be with you. Be careful because this is "dilli".
ReplyDeleteThis article presents a shocking yet a true image of Delhi. Why only Delhi? This must be true for other so-called ‘developed cities’ of India. People have developed in their means and upgraded their way of living but have destroyed their mindsets which were well developed and in tune to the good Indian moral values. What a paradox! When Indians were not economically very stable, they were more caring and interacted with more people on a daily basis. But the moment, development took place, people started becoming secluded, happy in their own lives and oblivious to the world if they don’t need them. If this is what development leads to, do we need it? So individuals need to introspect and weigh morals on one hand against such ‘development’ (whose negatives are outweighing the positives).
ReplyDeleteYour article is going to pave the way for more debate and discussion on this issue and hope we find a solution out soon before the West becomes East and vice versa in their morals and values.